Prepare yourself physically – looks, appearance and how you portray yourself to the world. If you are selling your car the first thing to do is to wash and clean it to present it in the best light. When selling your house you tidy and de-clutter in order to attract the right buyer at the right price. Think about dating as selling yourself. The first (and the easiest) step on the dating journey is to get the physical aspects right – take a blinkers-off look at yourself as others see you, starting with your hygiene. This is a major red flag for women if it’s not at an acceptable level.
Dating Tip 2 – Appearance
Keep your dating blinkers off and look at your appearance:
· Your body – happy with it? If not why should she be?
· Your clothes – are they clean and suit the situation you find yourself in?
· Your habits – some you know you do, others are unconscious. Red flags all!!!
· Your interests – are you interesting to be with? Women date interesting men.
· Your ambitions – women like to date ambitious men.
· Your independence – if she sees you can’t look after yourself you can’t look after her!
Get these first two tips right and you will be ahead of most of your dating rivals.
Dating Tip 3 – Emotional Baggage
Get your mind right – get in dating mode. De-clutter your mind and overcome the mental barriers to success that everyone carries around with them, especially when dating. Remove any baggage you might have – poor self image created by previous dating or life experiences or the residual effects of a past relationship. Next let go of this baggage and leave it behind. If you were looking to buy something, would you give it a second glance if it had obvious flaws or looked like someone else had used it? Why should she look at you if you have obvious flaws?
Dating Tip 4 – Confidence
Baggage often causes a lack of confidence and this is very debilitating when dating – nothing attracts a woman like confidence. Deep down (or even near the surface!) women are often looking for someone to look after them. If you appear confident and able to cope with any situation you immediately become very attractive to a large number of women especially if there are no other red flags. Know what confidence is and how you can develop an air of confidence as a major step in wowing a large number of women.
Dating Tip 5 – Conversation Skills
Make the most of the things you have to make you more interesting and exciting. Know how to make conversation, both what to talk about and, more importantly, how to hold a conversation that leaves your date wanting to talk to you more. This does not just involve talking! There is a secret in being an excellent conversationalist and the secret is this – everyone’s (and I mean everyone!) number one topic of conversation is himself or herself. So when talking with anyone you want to engage with is to talk and ask questions about their favourite subject – themselves! Easy! Add to that some topics everyone has in common and some tools to keep the conversation flowing and you are ready to be interested and interesting.
Dating Tip 6 – Rapport
Know how to establish rapport with women – how to make a connection. Everyone (and once again I mean everyone) likes someone who is like him or her. Find out how to find areas in common with whoever you are talking to. This makes her feel comfortable and want to spend more time with you.
Dating Tip 7 – Read Her Body Language
You have probably heard about this subject, but you probably don’t use what is right in front your face – women do. Women are giving signals all the time about how comfortable they are, how interested they are and whether they are about to leave. Read these signals and swing the dating odds in your favour – know if you are wasting your time and should leave or if you should ask her for her telephone number now. If your dating requests are getting rejected 80% of the time it can be very demoralising no matter how positive you are! If you get 80% acceptance suddenly you look like Superman!
Dating Tip 8 – Practice, practice, practice!
Practice all the above and be aware of the feedback you get and act on it. Of all the tips this one step improves the odds of dating success more than any other. No one can expect to get their dating technique right just by reading dating books about what to do and then rely on it working in the heat of the moment. What is needed is practice, firstly on your own, then in controlled environments and then in real life dating situations. By the time you get there real life dating will feel comfortable and you will realise you have nothing to lose. How comfortable would you be in the hands of a surgeon who had not bothered to practice – who turned up in the operating theatre and decided to wing it?
Bring that level of professionalism to the dating party so you don’t look like an amateur, act like an amateur and get amateur results!
Dating Tip 9 – Go Where Women Go!
If you are looking to meet women to date, think about where she would go. Where does she socialise? Where does she go for entertainment? If you want to find tigers you need to go to the zoo. No matter how many times you go to the library you won’t find one there unless it’s a picture! Better still go on a tiger safari in the wild! Think it through and then go there – fish in a well stocked barrel!
Dating Tip 10 – Take Action!
Take action and do it now! It’s all very well going through the steps above and getting ready to act but, as General George Patton said, “A good plan vigorously executed right now is far better than a perfect plan executed next week”. Decide on your course of action and act. Load the bullet and pull the trigger. You can wait for your dating preparation to be perfect and for the perfect dating opportunity to arise, but the days, months and years will pass by whether you act or not and you are wasting valuable dating time by prevaricating. It’s very easy to make excuses but, like it or not, your success is judged by dating results, not by intention. How successful would you feel if the epitaph on your headstone read “He meant to ask a girl on a date”?
FACT Women are dying to meet acceptable, interesting and entertaining men
GOAL Become acceptable, interesting and entertaining.
PLAN Remove the things that make you unacceptable and make the most of things that make you interesting and entertaining.
Make finding the right person a priority – not finding any person. Always keep the dating goal in mind. You will need to be committed. Never forget that you do have a choice. You can sit around waiting for good things to happen or go out and make sure good things happen. So get ready for dating – be ready to commit to dates, prepare for let downs but most of all get ready to have fun. So what are you waiting for? Stop making excuses. Stop moaning about your bad luck. Stop watching TV. Get up off your procrastination and get started. Now!